Dear FACT

Dear FACT,

It seems to me that there needs to be a systematic way to address child sexual abuse and it all begins with the memories.

From the very first memories of child sexual abuse there needs to be a team. A very specific team who know what is going to happen next.

I believe that what happens in every case is going to be relatively the same. NOTE: The memories will be different but the process at which they surface will be relatively the same.

There will be something that will trigger the beginning of the memories. It will usually be very traumatic and a person will get wild flashes of scenes of what they have survived. (Always remember and use the word survived! I believe it gives empowerment. You are still here and you HAVE SURVIVED!)

With the first memories of child sexual abuse I turned to the people who have always told me, "You can tell us anything!" Those people were my parents. I guess this part of the claim was not covered under their initial support!

What happened to me is that the immediate words and the only words that were spoken were, "It didn't happen!"

I was really baffled by this as I had no idea at the time that the first person who sexually molested me was my own father!

The memories were not all there for me, and they never will be "all there" for anyone who "begins" to remember child sexual abuse. Memories as far as what I have read in all the documents out there are not going to be complete when you first begin to have them.

One way to try to convince me that I was mentally impaired and to keep my from being vocal about this was to proclaim to me and to anyone in ear shot that I always changed my story.

When a person begins to have memories their story is never complete. What will happen is that the story is not really changing at all it is only filling out and becoming complete! There is a very real difference there. While each story may have similarities, each story for each individual is going to be different and each story is very important as this shows that each individual is important! WE ARE ALL IMPORTANT AND EACH SURVIVORS STORY NEEDS TO BE COMPLETE. We each need to know fully what we have survived in order to deal with each detail and to move forward.

OK......About the team.



For me the entire reason I have been for the last 20 years trying to address child sexual abuse was to actually make a difference, to get education out there and to bring the actual numbers down. To address this issue at the very core is the only way to really address it. For me it has to be addressed in the same way you would address a math problem.


I believe there needs to be a campaign to reach people who are just beginning to have the memories. They are the people who need to be reached.
They need to have a team of people who can guide them as to what to expect next. I do not know the stages of what is next, I only know that I lived through them. (Again...I am a survivor!)


When a person begins to have memories they need to know there are people who do believe them. I believe it would be beneficial to have the person who begins to have the memories take appropriate tests to asses their metal capacity. The main thing that happens time and time again is that you are labeled as crazy. Nip that in the bud right away! (as Barney Phief would say!)

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It is not my intention to make quick buck or live off anyone so it is my suggestion that we try to trace as far as we can, the beginning of the sexual abuse in your own family. The statistics show that the majority of sexual abuse is from someone you know. OK. With me, I would begin by having an honest talk with my father. Many years ago he told me about when he was in an iron lung. I am not sure of how long he was encased in this contraption. What he told me is about the puddle of tears that were under him each time his family visited him. He was mostly face down in this "thing" and one night an employee of the hospital stepped up behind him.....and raped him.

My father needs to speak about the full memory of details of what happened.

I am not sure here....I can only speculate it but.....I would not doubt if his own father molested him. I always had a distrust of my fathers father. He was always a very gruff man and not very inviting. I kept my distance. We need to talk about everything that he remembers and find out if he is still attracted to children.
We need to make sure that he is never around children by himself.

As for my own story......I needed to explore more closely what happened on a certain farm in Wisconsin. I did for a short time have the assistance of an aunt of mine. I was so very appreciative of her for taking the time to meet with me and talk about what was happening to me with my sudden and disturbing memories. I had details of the house where I was molested just a little too perfect and I also had the first name of the man who molested me on the farm and caused my near death experience. The person I named was a long standing friend of the family. I was 4 years old. I know they took pictures. Yes it was 1966 but they could still exist today. I recently sent my uncle (the man married to the aunt that initially helped me) an email. He happens to be a pastor. I sent the message to him via a yahoo address for my Facebook page to address child sexual abuse. He did not answer my email. I posted the letter on my blog with a note stating that I felt there were enough details in my story that my uncle would determine it was me. He had to face this as my uncle and as a man of the cloth. As a man he ignored me. As a pastor he ignored me. If he was someone who was doing his job, please excuse me, he would seek out two people. The person to evaluate my mental capacity and the person who could be my councilor to if in fact I had survived child sexual abuse. To me it is just that simple.

They say that a man who has nothing to hide, hides nothing. Any loving supportive father would not hesitate to step in and support their child. Any father who had nothing to hide would speak openly. The subject of if they knew what they did was wrong would have to be brought up. The subject of to what degree were they able to control their desires would have to be brought up. Each persons details (once they believe they have had them all) are going to be different.

If the "loving, supportive father" is not willing to cooperate to address child sexual abuse, I believe that the lawyer would have to step in.

I believe there should be a law which proves, "The Truth Between Two People".

As with the person who has the "alleged child sexual abuse memories" as will be proclaimed by many; what about the honesty of the molester in question?
I believe that the person in question should have a polygraph test. I have the belief in total fairness. Equal and opposite tests.

Again I am not suggesting that this be a quick easy fix for financial reasons. This is only to begin to bring the ever growing numbers of sexual abuse cases down.....to really.......http://addresschildsexualabuse.blogspot.com/



This started out as a letter and ended up both a letter and a blog post.


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It is all about the networking!


Virgo (Aug.23-Sept.22.) In part my horoscope reads: What looks like a no-brainer to you may be far from obvious to the person dealing with the situation.

I just saw this horoscope for today and thought it fit.

Dear Pastor Schwerin

Dear Pastor Schwerin,

I am writing to you for spiritual advise and also advise as to how I can move forward.

I have been trying to speak with my family for over 20 years about my surviving child sexual abuse. I come from a very large family and there are only very small handful who are willing have anything to do with me. In this high tech world of staying connected my own sisters and many other family will not even “friend” me on Facebook. There is one aunt who was a teacher and former religious who absolutely refused to believe it or speak of it in any way! For the most part I hear about family / relative news is from an uncle who lives on the west coast! Even with my own mother I have called written and visited and I hear nothing back.

I did have one aunt who agreed to meet with me and discuss child sexual abuse. We met around 3 or 4 times and out of the blue she cut me out of her life. No answering phone calls or any kind of mail. That was over 10 years ago.

I have been writing a blog about this experience. I have been reaching out to all factions of people who are affected in some way by child sexual abuse and have had some success in building up a network. The networking that really needs to happen is with my family and relatives.

This is an epidemic that is often times generational.


What should I do when I reach out to an aunt who refuses to speak with me about her brother sexually molesting me and when I do finally reach her she repeats a phone number for me and she changes one number and makes a joke out of it?

Do you think it is possible to have any kind of relationship with a family that for the most part has tossed me under the bus? What would be my next step? Do I contact the husband of one of my aunts who is a Pastor?

Thank you for your time and energy,

http://addresschildsexualabuse.blogspot.com/


This is a letter I wrote to an aunt of mines husband. I would believe that he would see enough of the details of my life to realize who it is. I plan on sending this to him in regular mail. I will let you know if and when he responds to it.

I actually found an email for the church he is a Pastor at and sent the email labeled "confidential to Pastor Schwerin".

I have no idea if he will see this blog or if he will respond in any way. We shall see.

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Sunday, October 30th.

I have known my share of people who have lived the religious life. That does not mean in any way that they are actually spiritual or really follow any of the rules set down by what ever religion that they choose to follow. It just means that some wear a costume and proclaim all that they need to proclaim by what ever religion that they choose to follow. I do not say that all people who live the religious life but many of the people I know fit into this category.

It appears that my uncle the pastor has decided to not respond to my email. I have known for many years a mantra taught to many religious persons. This is from the Catholic Faith. "Deny everything, admit nothing!" That has been forced in the other direction in some cases of child sexual abuse but that is the usual gist of how they react to something like the email I sent. That is one thing and when provoked they tell their "white lies".

I am not surprised by the non-response to my email. It looks as if another person has boarded the bus. The same bus that I was tossed under. This is not upsetting to me at all. A very dear friend of mine asked me about this blog recently and said he was worried about me because it looked as if I was going out searching to be let down and abandoned even more than I have already. I do not think that this is the case. There are many steps to take to undo what has been around for many years. Most likely more years than we could even know. If you do not reach out and ask the people in your life for help, how will you know if they are going to help you or not. I believe there will be many more doors shut in my face before I reach through to a larger audience who are like minded and strong enough to really make a change in the numbers of actual numbers of children being molested.

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I have been thinking of comments I made about "costume wearing" and I feel it was not entirely fair. I feel I did give my uncle ample time to comment or respond to my email but I also feel I was a little too harsh. I do not know his schedule and I do not know all that is included in his vows. I am not one who should be a judge about anyone. I am disappointed but I will not judge. I will continue to reach him and this time I will send the same letter addressed to "Uncle Rich".
I remember the first name of the man who included me in group sex when I was 4 years old. I believe that person is most likely still alive and may still be molesting children. I remember that there were photographs taken of me during that party. I am going to see if he will help me at least find out the last name of the man who molested me. It is difficult to trust and for some reason I have a fear that the molester in question may actually be given a tip off of what I am trying to do.

Age Appropriate Sexual Abuse Preventative Plan

Age Appropriate Sexual Abuse Preventative Plan

January 29Th, 2010

According to the American Academy of Child and Adolescent Psychiatry, child sexual abuse is reported up to 80,000 times per year which is staggering. As alarming as that number is, the thought that many sexual abuse cases go unreported only increases the need for parents to talk to their children about sexual assault/abuse. Many children fear what will happen to them if they tell and therefore remain silent. The psychological toll that their silence creates can be devastating to a child.

Parents should be proactive and make sure that their child understands what a good touch or bad touch is and make sure to develop open communication when it comes to their bodies. Prevent Child Abuse America has developed an age-appropriate Preventative Plan that goes as follows:

18 months- Teach child proper names for body parts.

3 Years Old- Use coloring/reading books to teach child about private parts; explain to child how to scream “NO” if he/she feels uncomfortable when touched a certain way.

5 – 8 Years Old- Make sure the child understands the difference between being touched on their private parts and other areas
of their body; Begin talking about outdoor safety to prevent molestation and/or abduction; create open dialogue to discuss uncomfortable situations.

At 8 Years Old- Stress personal safety outside the home; discuss appropriate sexual conduct.

12 – 18 Years Old- Parents should begin discussing STD’s, date rape, pregnancy prevention and the effects of drugs and alcohol.*


This is from the website http://sexualabuseexperts.com/

I save many sites addressing child sexual abuse. This is one of the last I have found. I really believe we could do wonders if we organized many of these sites to be working on solutions together. Let me start the emails.............

*When you do give the talk about drugs and alcohol please do some research. The drug talk I got was, "Don't do drugs or you'll jump out of a 3rd floor window!"

The Origin and Growth Of "Bad Blood"

One thing that I have heard many times and have repeated here is the rule of "For every action there is and equal and opposite reaction. Recently a sister of mine asked for my mailing address through an email. I suggested that she accept my friendship on face book and I would give her my address there. She refused and said she didn't understand why I made such a big deal about it. She would not accept my friendship on face book even though she had accepted 143 friends to date. I do not believe that she put up such a fuss with many or any of the 143 that she befriended before my request. She said she didn't "get it" why I made such a fuss. For me, it would simply establish that we were friends. It really is a simple thing. It was complex for my sister.

I looked up the quote "Appearances count for everything" but could not find it's origin. I think I was told that by a few people who had knowledge of business practices. Appearances count for everything. I am beginning to think that it is absolutely true.

In all aspects of life in all ages of life appearances count for everything and they weigh heavy every stage in your life.

I did not have a childhood. I was always being told act your age. I relied on other children near my age that i would mimic.
When I was growing up and enduring the many episodes of sexual abuse from my father, from a priest from a stranger from whomever....each time I would disappear, I would bury what just happened because I was not able to comprehend and deal with and address the assault I had just lived through. Each time there was an assault I would automatically act like the child near me.

By all outward appearances the person who just assaulted me could simply, [if ever they came close to being found out] could simply state they were helping me to a glass of water; bringing me to the bathroom or consoling be because of a nightmare. What was I going to do or say? I was in my buried state and I could not say anything because how did I have the vocabulary to say anything?

By all outward appearances they look to be kind and generous with their care of an infant or child. You most likely you do not know what you have almost witnessed.

When a young child begins to grow up, they will most likely have great and grand mood swings. Think of how jarring the experience of being sexually molested as an infant or child. When you are growing up your emotions will not match up to your age as you do not have the memories and the know how to decipher and address those very complex memories and experiences. The level of mood swings and multi-level of behaviors will be equal to the level of child molestation. Always remember the equation "equal and opposite".

There is a very big possibility that the young child who grows into young adulthood will continue to have outbursts that may lead to alcohol and drug use and or a trip to the psych ward for a short or extended visit depending on the level of molestation you have endured and survived. Let's all begin to think of ourselves as survivors. We are still here to read this and take in all it explains so We Are Survivors! Be proud of that!

But always thing about how "Appearances Are Everything" What everyone sees in the past will dictate how people will think about you in the here and now. What it looks like is what it is with most folk!

If you look at the statistics of how many people get tossed under the bus you will see that what I am experiencing is pure text book. I again have not looked it up but I could venture to say this has most likely been going on for too many decades! People would be shocked but many would still be complacent and just figure....that's the way things are. I just "Thank God It's Not In My Family!"

So....do not forget that as you are going through this, yet another stage of survival, there is a loving, caring parent stepping forward yet again to sweep in and save the day! I How many times has this been?!?!? I am getting so sick and tired of the saintly man of a father stepping in to help that poor sickly mentally impaired person! I would not blame him if he just gave up on this hopeless mentally impaired young man. (This scenario is in part fictionalized but this is based on what has happened to me. Keep in mind that there are so many relatives I know who will never answer a direct and specific question. It is all about saving face. How many hundreds of thousands of families are saving face to toss a survivor under the bus?

What is the value of that family name who would sacrifice a member of the family to "Save Face" and submit to "Not In My Family"? What should I think of my own "family"?!?!? What would they think of themselves if they ever thought to think of themselves as the people that most people would feel disgust about? Who are the people who are perpetuating the continuation of child sexual abuse the most? They are the people who are on the bus that you are tossed under.


We have the technology of exploring "The Truth Between Two People" but the law is on the person "with nothing to hide". That would be the "alleged molester". If you try to investigate "The Truth Between Two People" you are going to come across some of the most believable explanations that could ever be fabricated as they are so "text book". The crazy acts of the "survivor" all fit with the crazy acts they instigated and that coincides with generous and loving acts by the loving (in my case) father who stepped forward ''once again" to try to help such a lost soul.

It is outward appearances that people will see and believe.

The perception of "For every action there is an equal and opposite reaction" is that the survivor is the instigator of the initial actions that hurt their family. Just ask yourself the age old question, What came first, the chicken or the egg?" What came first, The molester or the survivor?


At the present time my mother will not answer any of the many letters I have sent her and her husband. I have also called a few times and visited to my home town last year and still I do not hear from any of them. It is all because there is "bad blood" which many believe I started with my crazy actions that "somehow" came out of the blue! In other words I in many peoples eyes have a mental impairment.

I will take any and all tests to check my mental health. Do you think that the man or men who molested me would take a polygraph test?

Each time I asked for help and did not get it I took a step back. Each time I took a step back the people I asked for help also took a step back and now we are very far apart with no chance to reconcile as the people in my life have always layed down the law and ended the conversaion. How can you speak with people who refuse to speak with you?

Reintegration Into Your Family after Sexual Abuse

I believe that there is a very specific way that a survivor has to be looked at. If you put together all of the basic beliefs you have and then look at a person who has survived child sexual abuse I believe you will see someone who has not been there with you since the time they were sexually molested. They have been with you physically but not much more. There may be times when they are there more then others. The person in question may be more distant soon after the act of sexual molestation. When the molestation is not happening they may be more integrated with the family. The degree of sexual abuse that has happened in the space you have lived in will dictate the distance away you are from your family you have always lived with.

There were periods of my life that I was not able to speak in order to be heard. I was so withdrawn and shut down that I was told to speak up many times. It was very frustrating and I even remember yelling to be heard because I was so sick of people telling me to speak up. What caused me to shut down to the point I could not speak? Remember, for every action there is an equal and opposite reaction. This being silent did not JUST happen. I did not have mental impairment. This was simply a reaction to what I survived. Equal and opposite.

When there is a realization of sexual abuse in the family the natural reaction would be to cry. Think of it as if a person has been snatched from the family and you have not seen that person in many years. They will look very different and you watch to see if they act the same from the 6 or 10 years since you have seen them. Thinking in common sense terms, to calculate the number of years you have been away after being snatched, you add together the first time you remember being sexually molested to the first time you remembered the beginning of said sexual molestation. As you remember more and more of that sexual molestation, it's as if you are say 200 miles away from your family and the more you remember the closer you get to your home town. Visualize a map and see, maybe the car from the Monopoly Game. You are in the car and you move 5-10 or 15 miles each week closer to your home town. When you finally drive into your town or meet up with your family you are a different person since you remembered and hopefully dealt the all the issues survival of this sort requires. In inherent problem is that, from what I have seen and from what I have experienced to date, the majority of people who remember child sexual abuse and try to address the issue in their family get pushed away and not believed. The percentage of people in this situation I do not know, I have looked without success. Sorry.

There is also the percentage of persons who will choose to just let it go and never speak of it again as if "it didn't happen. It one time I was angry with the people who made this choice but I have come to realize that "who and I to judge"! Outrageous. I do not know the severity of what they experienced and I do not know how close they are to the individuals in their family or group of friends. Personally I have experienced far too much for me to completely just say that it did not happen. This is just a personal choice. If you choose to not go public after you realize you have been sexually molested you can still do things behind the scenes with organizations over the Internet to still make a change, and I hope you do. And thank you for doing so.


What happens when there is a reunion with a long lost relative? I think we have all seen the reunions on all the major talk shows. There is a great deal of crying and hugging and looking closely at each other seeing how you look alike finding out about their likes what you have in common and the most basic of bonding. This is what needs to happen with the reintegration of a sexual survivor into their family. Remember equal and opposite.
I truly believe the analogy works. How often does this happen? From what I see far less than needs to happen or there would not be the steady increase of sexual abuse.

The many people who are on the bus (for what-ever reason they choose) that you are tossed under are the people who are largely responsible for the continuation of the growth of child sexual abuse. That is my belief.
I have stated that more than once but I think it important to reach that group of people and we will see a significant drop of actual cases of child sexual abuse. I have said that specifically because most often the drop of "reported" cases gives a completely different number and THAT is what is most often stated.


The next time you see a reunion with a long lost or "snatched" person, I hope you think of a the reunion of a child sexual abuse survivor and maybe with a little visualization this will begin to happen. I have heard it said that if you can visualize it, it can happen.

Using Power/ Accepting Friendships/ Moving On

There are many survivors of child sexual abuse. If you ask any parent of a survivor how they feel about child sexual abuse they would have the same public disgust of this epidemic as any other person who is a parent or not. If you ask them if they would be open to exploring "the truth between two people" you will most likely come up against a brick wall with the usual excuse that there is mental impairment and false memories with their child. This is as I have stated before one of the main reasons why we can not get a grip on this ever expanding epidemic.

Recently I have been communicating with an older sister who asked for my address. I have 3 siblings who I have had little to no contact with for the last 20 years. I was very involved with human rights issues and did some very involved volunteer work that I received no support with. Every time I asked asked for support (over a 2 year period) with something that was very important to me my relatives took a step backward and said no. Each time they stepped back and said no....I in turn stepped back and refused to support them.

It really is true that for every action there is an equal and opposite reaction. So we both stepped away from each other for 20 years and out of the blue my sister asks for my address? I am of course suspicious and ask why. She refused to even accept my friendship request on face book from over a year ago. I suggested she accept my friendship and I would give her my address there. No Go! She did not "get it" why I was so upset that she would not accept my friendship. To date my older sister has accepted 143 friends but could not accept my friendship. I have a younger sister who also has refused to accept my friendship on facebook. I am not sure if my younger brother is on facebook at all. He may have put a block on my profile already before I could ask for a friendship.

There is no reason I should trust her and I wondered if this was the beginning of her and other relatives asking me to never show my face in my home town again. I guess I am giving myself advise as to how I should deal with this lack of a relationship. If I have stated that she gives me no reason why I should trust her why am I so upset that she would not accept my friendship on facebook. Just the word friendship would give me hope that there would be some kind of relationship with her and might even open up the possibility of other friendships with other relatives.

We always had the power. It is a mantra of many people who know and love the "Wizard of Oz" but when will we have the backbone to move forward with that power. What about the misuse of power? With power most often you have the misuse of power and the good intent is never realized. There seems to be too many laws protecting a person and not enough laws protecting the many people affected by the misuse of power.


With my own memories of child sexual abuse when some of the memories were still foggy I heard the immediate words from my father that, "IT DIDN'T HAPPEN!" Here is the misuse of power. My pedophile tossed me under the bus.

I could not get support for any social issues I was working to help or doing volunteer work for a period of 20 years. I could not even get a friendship acceptance from 2 of my sisters. Another door has been shut in my face.

You really do have to create your own family when this kind of thing happens but when your trust has been shattered to many times and in so many ways it is very difficult to know who to trust and how to begin.
I say to myself (and to you) that you have to start somewhere and I think that you just have to take the plunge. I will begin with small things and begin to trust in baby steps. Once you begin to trust the small things you build a foundation of trust and you can begin to grow more. This will not happen overnight or even in a few years. Even if you have 3 good friends that you can trust who will be there for you with opportunities for you to be there for them you are a blessed person.

You also have to really like yourself and like your own company. With me I spent much of my childhood alone and explored who I was by myself and did get to really enjoy my time alone. Take a few small steps and feel better about yourself.

I still do not want to give up all hope but there may come a time when you might be healthier to just make a clean break. I am not saying to burn all bridges but there may come a time when you just can't try any more if the person or people in question do nothing to at least meet you half way. The imbalance of perceptions of the events that led up to the break in a relationship with a survivor and the person driving the bus and people riding on that bus is huge.

We somehow need to get the driver to the back of the bus and let people who do not misuse power into the drivers seat.

The Truth Between Two People

Could it be as simple as this? Could we begin to have an end to sexual abuse if we just simply investigated what is the truth about two people? The two people I speak of are the infant or child and the adult who is sexually molesting them. Just ask yourself what is the first and sometimes only excuse that sexually abusive people put forth. It is that the person proclaiming sexual molestation is mentally impaired. I myself dealt with panic attacks when I was young. I was briefly hospitalized because I had a very fast heart rate and the doctor called it a "nervous heart". It was the psych ward. When I discovered where I was I questioned my mother and she explained the rest of the hospital was full. I personally do not remember the great epidemic of 1980. From all outward appearances some of my actions were very crazy. Was it due to something I was born with or is it because I was living in an unsafe house? Keep in mind that most people remember the sexual abuse in their mid to late 20's and so the emotional part is still very prevalent. Depending on the level of sexual molestation, will depend on just how emotional a person gets.

In my situation the majority of my family have refused to speak to me for the better part of 20 years. It has always been my birth parents modus operandi to lay down the law and end the conversation. This has never worked for me. After many years of trying to speak with them and they continuing to keep repeating that I was mentally impaired, we have at this writing never really reconnected and I do not believe it will ever happen.

What if I the two people in question took polygraph tests? What if we just found out from beginning if there was sexual abuse or if someone is mentally impaired? Surly you care about your daughter or son enough to get them help for the mental impairment that you insist she or he has! I have not proposed this to my own birth father as yet but what are the chances that he would not pass? I know that the man who molested me would certainly fail the test. The only thing I was interested in was to actually as the blog title says, ADDRESS CHILD SEXUAL ABUSE. I wanted to investigate as far back as we could find instances of child sexual abuse in my own relation.

Public humiliation, legal action, loss of love from wife and family and friends and suicide are just a few of the fears of a child molester.

It's much easier to just toss the acusser under the bus. They ALWAYS have a history of acting crazy "with pent up emotions that emerge without conscious knowlege of why they are there" yet they will remember in their mid to late twenties! It seems just too text book for words. And somehow we as a group of people have not been able to figure out a sound solution after so many years of trying?!?

The only thing I wanted to find out from my molester is, What Happened To You? I believe that what I have experienced is a generational thing and it WILL continue in my relation after I am long dead. The proverbial brick wall is what I am up against and while that is most likely a fact in my relation it does not need to be a fact in your or other persons cases. If you can IN WRITING and with THOUGHTFULNESS and UNDERSTANDING.......put down on paper that the sole reason you want the truth is to investigate in your own family if it is mental impairment or child molestation.

I personally believe it would be a fair thing if there were some kind of compensation for the survivor for counselors or some kind of other stipend for living conditions while being a survivor. That would have to be decided between the two people in question.

I believe this may all sound like a kind of Utopian way of looking at it. Sunshine and lolly pops and rainbows and unicorns.

Could their someday be a law to Investigate The Truth About Two People? I think it could be real way to make a dent in the ever growing epidemic of child sexual abuse. I believe it could all be done quietly. It would have to be a very carefully worded law. It would be very tricky and I would need a very able lawyer to help with the content. Are there any lawyers reading this?
Do you know a lawyer who deals with child sex abuse cases? If you do know someone, please send him or her a copy of this blog post. Thank you.