New Word to "Get Real" About

childhood

[chahyld-hoo d]

noun
1. the state or period of being a child.
2. the early stage in the existence of something:
the childhood of the human race.

Childhood should be a carefree simpler time.  When that is taken away you endure what I call "incesthood".


Incesthood

noun
1. the state or period of being used sexually as a child.
2. the early stage in the existence of something horrible.

incested
verb
1. the action of having been sexually molested by a blood relative, i.e. father, brother, uncle etc.

There are hundreds of thousands of people out there who did not Have a childhood.  A number of those people will go on to continue the epidemic of child sexual abuse.  A number of those people will never speak of this to their families.  A number of those people will support and hide any actions they survived.  A number of those will do the work to get out of that destructive cycle and try to change for the health of it.

Too many families are expecting family loyalty without being loyal to the survivors of child sexual abuse.



I have explored the way to get a word into the dictionary and the main way a word is added is by usage.   This posses a particular problem as there is a gargantuan majority of people who are survivors who will not come forward to be open about their survival.  An aunt of mine who will not speak with me….she will speak At me but will never broach the subject of incest or child sexual abuse and I tried for 25  years!  I have bookmarked the page to submit a word to the dictionary and will go back and fill
out all the reasons why I believe it to be a valid word.  If you want to share this post with anyone or any organization who could begin to Use this word….well that would be Great!   Peace.  

Mandatory Police Report / Report to Be in Holding Patern While Communicating with The Alleged Molester/Evaluation-Validation For the Alleged Survivor

During the first year of when my memories of child sexual abuse memories were emerging I was asked by the therapist I was seeing at the time if I wanted to press charges against my father.   I declined saying I felt if I did he might commit suicide and people would hate me even more.  They would blame me.  With the recent ongoing silent treatment I am getting from 99% of the paternal side of the family I am thinking and rethinking and wondering what I could have done differently.  It is a big puzzle.

I believe that there should be a mandatory police report written up.  It does not have to be filed and acted upon until the person having child sexual abuse is more comfortable in doing so.  The other side of the coin is while this police report is taken down, there could be some discrete communication to the alleged molester stating that full cooperation is needed or there could be a very public investigation and court case.   There needs to be direct action taken with lie detector tests and tests of course of mental capacity of the alleged survivor of child sexual abuse.


Since I did not fill out this form and have not seen it I do not know if there is a name for that report.
Since there is not a sister note attached to the police report as yet it will need to be named. 

Direct action.  If the alleged survivor is in fact mentally impaired there needs to be evaluations done and possible medications given.

If you find through what ever means available that the alleged molester did in fact act sexually upon the child there needs to be action to make sure they never molest again.

I honestly believe this all could be done very discretely.  All you have to do is bring your honesty to the table.  Try to remember "Though Shalt Not Lie".