Me: Hey Cousin, How are you? Just wondering if you could get me Doris's address. Thanks.
[Doris was an Aunt]

Cousin: Hi! Things are well. How about for you? About Doris though, she passed away a few years ago.

Me: I am in (Mid-West City) and am about to begin marketing my art work……other than that I am working to make a living….. but I do have 3 day weekends at this point so that is good…… I asked about Doris as I must have seen her Double a few days ago. There was a beautiful well dressed woman whom I could have Sworn was Doris. As I am not on the best of terms with many (Paternal Family) right now……. I did not cross that path. But……… This woman looked exactly like Doris.
Cousin: Best of luck with your artwork. What mediums do you use? I'm certainly no artist, but I enjoyed art so much in college that I have a great appreciation for those with such gifts.
Yes, I'm aware of your falling out with your family. That isn't something I can relate to . . . And I'm blessed to have my family. I'm sure its a difficult situation for you and your family both. I'll pray for you and them both.
December 8, 2014

Me: As for the "falling out"…..there was not a falling out……there was incest for 10 years from my father…he also involved me in child porn…….then there was the time I was gang raped by mouth on the paternal farm in Bloomer, WI. where I had a near death experience and had oral gonnoreah as a parting gift….there were also a few priests….and other various molestation I survived…… and the only way I can be a part of most of the [paternal family] lives is if I pretend it didn't happen. I spoke publicly for 15 years about this and I have a blog I have written in for the last almost 3 years. It's all about abandonment from the [paternal family]………They are not my favorite people. It would be interesting to hear what if any details you have heard. Mostly I thing there is the ongoing lie that I have mental impairments.

Cousin: I apologize for stating it as a "falling out." That probably appeared to be making light of the whole ordeal, but please know that from my perspective I only saw my cousin no longer speaking to his family and his family no longer speaking to their son. I haven't heard any details. From my perspective my mother was the only of that side of the family with any, albeit minimal, contact. The events that you describe are terrible, and I don't want to make light of it. It would be ok to speak about your family, but maybe not write about it. We could get coffee over Christmas if you like . . . But don't feel obligated.

Me: No apology needed. Coffee over Christmas would be great.
Seen Dec 8
*I copied and pasted this conversation with my cousin from Facebook. There was one part of the conversation that upon re-reading did not make it here. When I explained to this cousin I had done 15 years of public speaking about social justice and incest survival my cousin thought that was good but my cousin objected when I told him I was also writing a blog for almost 4 years. It is unfortunate that there are generations of hiding pedophiles. I should not judge but I am saddened that it looks as if my paternal side of the family were in charge of dealing with pedophile priests, they would most likely just
relocate them as the Catholic Church did for years.
*I did not see my cousin on Facebook during the Christmas Holiday and there was no communication from him to have the coffee. I still enjoyed coffee and was grateful!
I hope you all had a Joyous Holiday and Celebrated the Birth of Christ.
[Doris was an Aunt]

Cousin: Hi! Things are well. How about for you? About Doris though, she passed away a few years ago.

Me: I am in (Mid-West City) and am about to begin marketing my art work……other than that I am working to make a living….. but I do have 3 day weekends at this point so that is good…… I asked about Doris as I must have seen her Double a few days ago. There was a beautiful well dressed woman whom I could have Sworn was Doris. As I am not on the best of terms with many (Paternal Family) right now……. I did not cross that path. But……… This woman looked exactly like Doris.
Cousin: Best of luck with your artwork. What mediums do you use? I'm certainly no artist, but I enjoyed art so much in college that I have a great appreciation for those with such gifts.
Yes, I'm aware of your falling out with your family. That isn't something I can relate to . . . And I'm blessed to have my family. I'm sure its a difficult situation for you and your family both. I'll pray for you and them both.
December 8, 2014

Me: As for the "falling out"…..there was not a falling out……there was incest for 10 years from my father…he also involved me in child porn…….then there was the time I was gang raped by mouth on the paternal farm in Bloomer, WI. where I had a near death experience and had oral gonnoreah as a parting gift….there were also a few priests….and other various molestation I survived…… and the only way I can be a part of most of the [paternal family] lives is if I pretend it didn't happen. I spoke publicly for 15 years about this and I have a blog I have written in for the last almost 3 years. It's all about abandonment from the [paternal family]………They are not my favorite people. It would be interesting to hear what if any details you have heard. Mostly I thing there is the ongoing lie that I have mental impairments.

Cousin: I apologize for stating it as a "falling out." That probably appeared to be making light of the whole ordeal, but please know that from my perspective I only saw my cousin no longer speaking to his family and his family no longer speaking to their son. I haven't heard any details. From my perspective my mother was the only of that side of the family with any, albeit minimal, contact. The events that you describe are terrible, and I don't want to make light of it. It would be ok to speak about your family, but maybe not write about it. We could get coffee over Christmas if you like . . . But don't feel obligated.

Me: No apology needed. Coffee over Christmas would be great.
Seen Dec 8
*I copied and pasted this conversation with my cousin from Facebook. There was one part of the conversation that upon re-reading did not make it here. When I explained to this cousin I had done 15 years of public speaking about social justice and incest survival my cousin thought that was good but my cousin objected when I told him I was also writing a blog for almost 4 years. It is unfortunate that there are generations of hiding pedophiles. I should not judge but I am saddened that it looks as if my paternal side of the family were in charge of dealing with pedophile priests, they would most likely just
relocate them as the Catholic Church did for years.
*I did not see my cousin on Facebook during the Christmas Holiday and there was no communication from him to have the coffee. I still enjoyed coffee and was grateful!
I hope you all had a Joyous Holiday and Celebrated the Birth of Christ.
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