Dear Readers, I have made comments on many websites and articles I read on the internet.
I rarely get any follow up mention or response but the following response from Amy Marschak very much warmed my heart.
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I am very sorry to hear that that happened to you. Many people who are
survivors of sexual abuse feel like orphans, especially if their family
abused them in any way or if their family did not protect them. If a
family protects the abuser they are not real family. Real families love
and protect their children. Siblings brought up in an unhealthy family
can also learn to become or support perpetrators or they can realize
that they want to be kind people and choose kindness and protecting
other children.
I wrote a post with some ideas on how to be your own parent called
"Surviving Mother's Day and the Holidays" at
http://www.healingfromsexualabuse.com/ideas-for-healing-from-abuse/surviving-mothers-day-and-the-holidays/
Also if you have not recently reached out to heal more you can try
calling 1-800-656-HOPE and get connected to your local rape crisis
center. I write this because even though you had a terrible family of
origin does not mean that you need to feel like an orphan for the rest
of your life. If you feel supported by the hotline, that is great, if
not hang up and try again later or reach out to other resources. Keep
reaching out until you feel so supported in your life and so great in
your life that you no longer feel like an orphan.
You might also want to check out http://malesurvivor.org/ they also have
a conference coming up at the end of this month. No one needs to deal
with sexual abuse alone.
Feel free to write back with any questions, updates or successes, it
helps give hope to other survivors.
I rarely get any follow up mention or response but the following response from Amy Marschak very much warmed my heart.
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I am very sorry to hear that that happened to you. Many people who are
survivors of sexual abuse feel like orphans, especially if their family
abused them in any way or if their family did not protect them. If a
family protects the abuser they are not real family. Real families love
and protect their children. Siblings brought up in an unhealthy family
can also learn to become or support perpetrators or they can realize
that they want to be kind people and choose kindness and protecting
other children.
I wrote a post with some ideas on how to be your own parent called
"Surviving Mother's Day and the Holidays" at
http://www.healingfromsexualabuse.com/ideas-for-healing-from-abuse/surviving-mothers-day-and-the-holidays/
Also if you have not recently reached out to heal more you can try
calling 1-800-656-HOPE and get connected to your local rape crisis
center. I write this because even though you had a terrible family of
origin does not mean that you need to feel like an orphan for the rest
of your life. If you feel supported by the hotline, that is great, if
not hang up and try again later or reach out to other resources. Keep
reaching out until you feel so supported in your life and so great in
your life that you no longer feel like an orphan.
You might also want to check out http://malesurvivor.org/ they also have
a conference coming up at the end of this month. No one needs to deal
with sexual abuse alone.
Feel free to write back with any questions, updates or successes, it
helps give hope to other survivors.
Sincerely,
Amy Marschak
healingfromsexualabuse.com
Thank you Amy for such healing words of advice. How very kind you are.
I have this posting to show that reaching out and networking really do pay off. You need to be connected with others and reach out to people such as Amy Marschak!
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